Several years ago my Twin Sis turned me on to a life visioning practice that I’ve done a few times. Neither of us remember where she heard the idea, but we both like it.
Basically all you do is write a wish list for your life with the words “I am so happy now that…” at the beginning of each sentence, as if your life already has everything you desire. (Even though this specific practice doesn’t come from him, I encourage you to check out Mike Dooley‘s newest bestseller, Leveraging the Universe, it’s been just what I need to reflect on my life lately.)
I first wrote such an “happy vision” for my life in fall of 2007 (age 30, our Big Guy was 9 months). Now my life was pretty darn happy at the time, but I had a temporary job that didn’t pay much more than enough to cover child care costs and my student loans. At the time we also wanted to have another child soon, and our tiny house would have been hard pressed to fit a fourth family member. So, while life was very good on many levels, and I certainly didn’t have much to complain about, there were some nagging financial fears on the horizon. But I basically envisioned what my ideal life would be like.
I consider this to be highly personal, my own version of Living in Bliss. I really debated about putting it out to the world, but hopefully you will respect what makes me happy…
Fast forward a few years, and I can see that while my life circumstances have changed, my values are still exactly the same.
I am so happy now that my family is living life to the fullest and growing up together. I am so happy now that our kids are in excellent school environments and developing their full potential. I am so happy now that Hubby and I have regular dates nights and occasional getaways. I am so happy now that we can spend more time together as a family and with extended family. I am so happy now that my career is established, and I’m able to use my talents and expand my influence in positive ways. I am so happy now that our home is as sustainable as possible, and our garden is flourishing. I am so happy now that my student loans, and car loan and mortgage is paid off. I am so happy now that we have financial security. I am so happy now that we have a beach house/retreat. I am so happy now that we are able to invest in exciting projects and give to causes we care about. I am so happy now that we volunteer in our community together, and are connected at Grace. I am so happy now that we have a deep social network of friends we love spending time with and celebrate life. I am so happy now that we are able to take family trips to places we are passionate about and discover the world together. I am so happy now that I’m living with grace and ease, while making my dreams come true.
Now the best part is that I actually feel like I am on the verge of having this entire statement be true! It will naturally be a process, and I don’t expect that any of it will happen overnight. I’ll need to be continually proactive, but with patience and perseverance, I have no doubt it will all be true.
What makes you happy…how does your sentence end?
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Thanks for this Darcy, and thank you for the courage to share your own personal story here. I thought about this a little yesterday and realized that there are a number of things that I’d write as an aspiration (I have more dates with my husband) but there were a lot that were affirmations of sustaining something (I continue to be healthy and care for myself). This really helped show me that many of the things I value are woven into my life now and not some far-off, some-tomorrow dream to chase. Thanks for helping me shift my perception.
I do want to do this more mindfully (I read/thought about it during a lunch break yesterday) and see if husband wants to do it too. It would be neat to see where our statements overlaps and what is unique to each of us.
Thanks for your comment Stacy! I agree that the key is living in the now while focusing on your dreams. I should do this with Hubby too…