It's been a while since Hubby and I had a true "money honey." We finally managed to have a date night (god bless visits from grandparents!), but our only financial discussion was more big picture than day-to-day bills.
At any rate, I was a bit taken aback when Hubby called me up at lunch to discuss our bank balance. I had recently paid our two credit cards and paid a delinquent T-mobile bill to my sis...more on that topic soon. I hadn't actually hidden any expenses, but the truth of the matter is that I have made several purchases lately. With the exception of some summer clothes, all of the items were discussed in advance.
Yet, I do have to admit that I was somehow hoping that he wouldn't notice the $1k missing for the initial vet bill. We discussed the cost in advance, and I agreed that I would call him before making a decision about any potential surgery. The truth is that I knew Hubby wouldn't be happy about the cost, but I felt like it was my call (and our responsibility) as a pet-owner to get x-rays done to find out his situation. I've also decided that we will opt out of the surgery, partly based on the x-ray results that show arthritis in both knees and hips and partly because Hubby couldn't stomach the cost.
But the whole situation leaves me wondering how much leeway I have as a spouse to make decisions that I feel are best for our family. I think my version of so-called financial infidelity is more family oriented than the shop-aholic who hides purchases...yet I think there is always a fine line when it comes to purchases you know your spouse may not agree upon.
Are you financial faithful?
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